About The Adult Chair
The Adult Chair® is a life management system that I use to live and make choices from my healthiest, most mature perspective. It’s understanding the amazing, adaptive nature of our survival-driven brains! It’s knowing when there are bumps in the road, I have strategies and tools to authentically examine and move through life with ease.
Below are descriptions of the most important piece of The Adult Chair® model and links to Michelle Chalfant’s Adult Chair podcast.
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The Adult Chair® is a manual for your life. It’s a tool that helps you feel empowered, confident, and equipped with a clear roadmap to your healthiest, most authentic self. Through The Adult Chair®, you will understand how your life experiences have shaped you, give a voice to the different parts of who you are, gain greater self-awareness, and respond to life in a healthy way.
The Adult Chair Model
Your inner child is the foundation of your true feelings and needs. The inner child is deeply vulnerable, which makes it the source of deep, connected relationships. It is also where early wounding can occur, which shapes our view of the world as we grow up. When seated in the Child Chair, we find creativity, passion, spontaneity, trust, and intimacy. Often, this cherished essence of ourself gets ignored as we age.
The Child Chair
In adolescence, you begin to develop your own identity and realize that you are separate and unique from the world around you. This can be both liberating and terrifying as our need to be included in a “tribe” is a strong biological survival instinct. As the ego forms, so does the desire to protect yourself, whether the dangers are real or perceived. To your brain, it’s a matter of life or death. When operating from the Adolescent Chair, we become perfectionist, judgmental, jealous, critical, hurt, and we often develop a mask to hide our authentic selves from a world that seems ready to reject us. Most of us live from this place until we awake and decide we are ready to grow beyond and challenge these protective yet self-limiting beliefs.
The Adolescent Chair
The Adult Chair represents your highest self: living in the present moment, dealing with truth and fact rather than stories and assumptions, and being able to set boundaries from a place of patience and compassion. While seated in the Adult Chair, we can deeply connect with our inner child’s needs and feelings and objectively observe our adolescent’s behaviors. It is here, and only here, that we can become aware of—and work through—the emotional triggers and negative patterns that hold us back. Living from the Adult Chair is peaceful, pragmatic, and a beautiful way to experience being human!
The Adult Chair
The Adult Chair is the MOST powerful life management system that is a roadmap to give you the life you want + deserve, and I'm going to teach you exactly how to use it!
Now is your time.
You deserve this life.
You deserve peace.
You deserve clarity.
You deserve balance.